I have many different feelings.
Other people have many feelings, too.
I want to understand how other people feel.
When something happens to someone, I can imagine how I would feel if it happened to me.
Then I can understand how someone else might feel.
I see my friend smile and laugh when she’s happy.
She enjoys being with people and things she likes.
I understand how she feels.
I smile and laugh at some of the same things.
When something nice happens to someone,
I can remember times when I have been happy.
I can imagine how I would feel.
Then I can understand how the person feels.
I can show I care.
Someone I know may feel sad when something goes wrong.
He may frown or cry.
I feel sad, too, when things go wrong for me.
I can imagine how I would feel if the same thing happened to me.
I can understand how the person feels.
I can show I care.
Sometimes people feel angry when things don’t go the way they want.
Anger may show in a person’s face, voice, or body.
I can remember feeling angry when things didn’t go my way.
I can try to understand how the person feels. I can show I care.
If I’m not sure how someone is feeling, I might ask, “How do you feel?”
Then I can listen.
Listening shows that I respect the person, and that I want to understand.
When I want to understand how someone feels, I can watch how the person acts.
I can remember when I have felt that way.
I can imagine how I might feel.
I can ask and listen. I can show I care.
Understanding each other helps us get along.
It feels good to understand and care!
(Cheri J. Meiners, M. Ed.
Understand and care
Minneapolis, Free spirit publishing, 2003 )
A) Discussion Points:
- Please have a discussion on how you can show you care for another person, by focusing on the words: understand, remember, imagine, ask, listen.
- Talk about the person who understands you the best.
- Talk about the person you care about the most.
- Do you agree that “it feels good to understand and care”?
To understand and to be understood makes our happiness on earth. – German Proverb
If you want understanding try giving some. – Malcolm Forbes
Peace cannot be achieved through violence; it can only be attained through understanding. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding. – Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi