Lesson 31 – Understand and Care

I have many different feelings.
Other people have many feelings, too.
I want to understand how other people feel.
When something happens to someone, I can imagine how I would feel if it happened to me.
Then I can understand how someone else might feel.

I see my friend smile and laugh when she’s happy.
She enjoys being with people and things she likes.
I understand how she feels.
I smile and laugh at some of the same things.

When something nice happens to someone,
I can remember times when I have been happy.
I can imagine how I would feel.
Then I can understand how the person feels.
I can show I care.

Someone I know may feel sad when something goes wrong.
He may frown or cry.
I feel sad, too, when things go wrong for me.
I can imagine how I would feel if the same thing happened to me.
I can understand how the person feels.
I can show I care.

Sometimes people feel angry when things don’t go the way they want.
Anger may show in a person’s face, voice, or body.
I can remember feeling angry when things didn’t go my way.
I can try to understand how the person feels. I can show I care.
If I’m not sure how someone is feeling, I might ask, “How do you feel?”
Then I can listen.
Listening shows that I respect the person, and that I want to understand.

When I want to understand how someone feels, I can watch how the person acts.
I can remember when I have felt that way.
I can imagine how I might feel.
I can ask and listen. I can show I care.
Understanding each other helps us get along.
It feels good to understand and care!

 (Cheri J. Meiners, M. Ed.
Understand and care
Minneapolis, Free spirit publishing, 2003 )

A) Discussion Points:

  1. Please have a discussion on how you can show you care for another person, by focusing on the words: understand, remember, imagine, ask, listen.
  2. Talk about the person who understands you the best.
  3. Talk about the person you care about the most.
  4. Do you agree that “it feels good to understand and care”?

To understand and to be understood makes our happiness on earth. – German Proverb

If you want understanding try giving some. – Malcolm Forbes

Peace cannot be achieved through violence; it can only be attained through understanding. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding. – Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi